Kind of weird seeing an article that quotes half the people I work with, people my dad studied with or teaches alongside. But that’s really at the heart of this issue: the Jewish community is a family. Everyone knows everyone, everyone is related. What’s at stake isn’t so much whether this is sin or acceptable behavior but whether you’re a welcome member of the family; whether you can sit down at the table without hiding or apologizing for what you are, whether your family will come rejoice at your wedding, the bris or babynaming of your child. Whether, if you want to devote your life to serving the community, the community wants your devotion.
About a year ago, I asked my dad how he justified homosexuality within Jewish law. He gave a number of really brilliant legal arguments that blew me out of the water, but finally he just shrugged and said what was at the core of it for him: He didn’t think God was that sadistic, to create homosexuals and then forbid that they ever find comfort or fulfillment.
So I’m crossing my fingers this week. I’m hoping my family has the courage to stand up and do the right thing.
ETA: They didn’t.